I wanted a gold watch.

by Carol
(Christmas, Florida)

Snacking on Watermelon

Snacking on Watermelon

After 27 years of law enforcement, I had grand visions of my retirement party, a presentation of a gold watch, and then retreating to my home, and floating in my pool.


Wrong.

A month before I retired, my energetic 85 year old mother moved herself out of her assisted living facility, and quickly wore out her welcome at a friend's house. That's when the call came. "Can I come stay with you?" "Of course", I replied, "Come on down, Mom." "No, I mean permanently".

Oooohhh wow. As my nephew put it, "Congratulations on your retirement, here's a person."

So Mom moved in. With a box of meds. That apparently make her itchy, or tired, or.... gassy. It's quite the treat.

She's paying us the rent she was paying her friend. The $700 arrangement seems to bother my siblings. My response? Anyone want to take her for $700? Didn't think so. But let me know before I make it all the way to the bank with this windfall.

It's all new. Perhaps I'll learn over time why she insists on using the same glass all day and setting it near the sink window, perhaps we'll figure out why she tells her daily schedule to every single person she calls.

Until then, we'll make the best of it. We've painted her room her favorite blue, set her bathroom up just the way she likes it, and learned to leave 10 minutes early so she can take in all the sights around her as we make our way to the car.

It's not what I planned, but she needs us, and quite frankly, she'd be there for me if I needed it.

Welcome home Mom, I never liked gold watches anyhow.

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Jan 22, 2022
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In reply to charging parents NEW
by: Anonymous

My post didn’t elaborate regarding my Mom paying rent, however I think it’s important to consider that not all seniors are broke. My mom has several thousand leftover each month for fun, and she doesn’t have to tap her savings. Rent not only pays for her food, gas, tolls etc, but also seems to give her a feeling of being independent, more like a roommate, and she likes that. I hope that brings more understanding.

Jan 22, 2022
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Charging your own parents??? NEW
by: Anonymous

I honestly have never been able to understand how any offspring could take a penny from their elderly parents unless they utterly need to in order to make ends meet. I've cared for my mum for decades and even with low income, I couldn't take a penny. As much as possible, I've tried to give her everything she wants. It's wrong to charge rent to the very woman who gave you life and brought you into this world. Is this how you want to be treated when you find yourselves in the same position?

Mar 21, 2021
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by: Barbara

I SO get this. We moved back to our hometown 5+ years ago. What started as "Mom, can I bring you anything?" turned into an almost daily request, buy bananas at this store, but get strawberries at this store (memories of childhood) and over the years, we have figured out the demands. Mom is now in Independent Living, but far from independent. I did her laundry for 3+ years, hauling it back and forth from her home to my home, and later figured out other solutions. I, as you, think my siblings did not like me being paid for my services (for what I paid myself, I made maybe $3.00/hour, literally, and I did not even want this job!) In the end, we just have to figure out solutions to the problems.

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